The 3 Real Pillars of Faking It ‘Til You Make It!

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For most of us, when we discuss the concept of confidence, a lot of it is to do with the image we present. So many of the style tips out there talk about how you present yourself in terms of your look, but there’s also the aspect of “faking it until you make it.” There are many people in the world that feel like they have to present some image to appear they have control over the situation. What does it take to fake it until you make it?

Dressing for the Person You Want To Be, Not the Person You Are

One of the fundamental parts of faking it until you make it is acting like you have what you want or you are the person you want to be. This is commonly referred to as the Law of Attraction and is broken down into a number of other components, such as visualisation and manifestation. But dressing to be the person you want can be about providing those foundations that make you feel secure in yourself so you can be more like the person you want. 

For example, if you have always been a shrinking violet all your life, a simple addition to your wardrobe can instantly add an unconscious confidence, whether it’s a conch piercing or a new pair of shoes, these things make you feel different, for the better! When you start working from the outside in, it can help you build confidence and courage so you can take more risks.

Managing Expectations

There are some drawbacks to faking it until you make it. When you are pushing yourself forward as an authority that knows everything, there will be someone that wants to unravel this. Faking it until you make it is not about saying that you can do X, Y, and Z. Instead, you have to understand that pretending you know what someone demands of you when you don’t is asking for trouble. 

Therefore, you need to ensure that when you are putting a different version of yourself forward, you are doing it for yourself rather than anybody else. You may feel like you need to speak up in a conversation because you need to make yourself heard, but even if you don’t have the information to hand, sometimes it’s better to make yourself heard and chip in with something very small and snappy, rather than being full of bluff and bluster.


Practising faking it till you make it is the best approach. The important thing about faking it till you make it is that you are putting yourself on display, whether you are trying to be more confident in how you present yourself or in the way in which you talk; it all falls down to the notion of practice. 

Some people look in the mirror and perform positive self-talk techniques. And it’s something that we can all benefit from. If you want to be a different version of yourself, you have got to learn how to visualise it, and this means you’ve also got to start putting it into real words and expressions. Nobody comes into this planet fully formed; they’ve got to learn, either by mistakes or by practice.


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