Losing the people you love is one of the hardest things about getting older. In some ways, longevity can seem like a blessing and a curse. Having friends and family pass away before you means experiencing all that this wonderful world has to offer, as well as experiencing the pain of losing them.
The pain of losing someone for the first time can be overwhelming. It is very common to find it difficult to be around things that remind us of a loved one after they have passed away. Over time, however, the sharp pain turns into a dull ache.
Once this happens, we can begin the healing process. When we are ready, we may even be able to remember our loved ones proactively.
It is a deeply personal experience to remember a loved one. Let’s have a look at 12 ways to remember someone that you have lost – plus 9 more bonus ones. I hope you find them helpful.
Cook Their Favorite Dishes
Did you know that out of all of our senses, our sense of smell is the most unique? It is the sole sense that connects directly to the forebrain without passing through the thalamus. To put it another way, your sense of smell isn’t “filtered” like your other senses.
One of the reasons why memories related to our sense of smell are so strong is because of this! You can take advantage of this fact by preparing your loved one’s favourite dishes.
Do you have a loved one who can make a mean apple pie? Was there a unique meatloaf recipe she had perfected? Why not reintroduce her into your life by making her favourite food for an evening?
Record A Video Or Write A Letter To Them
There are times when we feel as if we still have things to say to someone we’ve lost unexpectedly. It may be that we simply miss their guidance and advice.
Keep your loved ones close to your heart by writing them a letter. Whatever you write doesn’t matter. Don’t worry about spelling or punctuation. It’s important to use your writing as a means of sorting out your feelings and strengthening your relationship with your loved one.
Not a fan of writing? How about a video? No posting is required. Once you record it, you can delete it. You must express your thoughts, ideas, and feelings openly.
Pray To Them Or For Them
Do you believe your departed loved one may still keep an eye on you from beyond the grave? If that’s the case, remember them in your prayers. You may even compose a unique prayer for them.
It’s possible that we’ll never know what happens to our loved ones once they pass away. We may, however, preserve them in our hearts for as long as we live through prayer.
Continue To Talk To Them
Our loved ones leave an indelible mark on our minds. As a result, we can almost hear their voice, full of meaning and life, when we close our eyes.
Furthermore, because we are so familiar with our loved ones, we have a decent notion of what they would advise us to do in certain scenarios. Why don’t you ask them?
Ask your loved one what they think you should do the next time you’re faced with a difficult decision. Even if they can’t directly influence you, the pattern they’ve left in your mind will provide you with useful information and may even assist you in making a wise decision.
Keep A Picture Closeby
Many of the folks I know carry a little photograph of a loved one in their wallet or pocketbook. Others will pin a little photograph to their refrigerator or a mirror in their home. This allows them to remember their loved ones while going about their daily activities. You may also want to look at pictures for headstones or grave markers.
Celebrate Special Events
Life is hectic. As a result, it’s occasionally a good idea to save special events for remembering your loved one. You may, for example, commemorate their birthday. You may even pay them a visit on their wedding anniversary. It’s quite acceptable if you want to keep your celebration quiet. You may also follow Celine Dion’s lead and create a social media homage to your loved one.
Keep An Heirloom IN Your Bag Or On You
Many of our family heirlooms wind up in boxes in our basements or garages, which is a terrible reality. Put something truly helpful or lovely on display if you are fortunate enough to inherit it.
But, even if the majority of the stuff you received aren’t functional in their current state, why not upcycle them?
Upcycling is the process of repurposing materials that have outlived their usefulness in a creative way. You may, for example, build a necklace out of polished stones that your mother has collected. You might also put a new band on your father’s old watch.
Having something tangible to remind you or your loved one of their passing is a wonderful way to keep their memories alive.
Watch Their Videos or Read Their Letters
If I feel my own end approaching, one of the things I hope to do is write a lot of letters and movies for my grandchildren. It gives me great comfort to know that they will receive a unique message from me on each of their birthdays.
Even if your loved one didn’t plan for their death, there’s a good possibility they left a lot of paperwork behind. Spend some time reading their letters. Try to read them in the voice of your loved one as you go. When you utilise your imagination, you could be shocked at how real their words sound.
Visit Places With A Lot Of Memories
Would you like to take your loved one to a special place? Were you taken fishing by your loved one? Did you go hiking together? Where did you like to go for coffee?
Hopefully, this guide has given a few good ideas for remembering your loved on when you miss them. Do you have any others that should be included?